tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8289342.post115191226121530040..comments2024-03-27T03:57:15.929+05:30Comments on Time and Tide: Emotional torture of childrenPradeep Nairhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04873369124947878452noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8289342.post-1152677092365774382006-07-12T09:34:00.000+05:302006-07-12T09:34:00.000+05:30Rony,True, here we don't have an effective mechani...<B>Rony,</B><BR/>True, here we don't have an effective mechanism for intervention in case of abuse. Now there are a number of conselling centres, probably with time, they may get more active.<BR/><BR/><B>Ullas,</B><BR/>You got it right. Some pressure is obviously necessary. But what most are ignorant of is "how far is too much". Besides this, corrective measures should never be counterproductive. Aspects like self-respect, confidence etc aren't often factored.Pradeep Nairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04873369124947878452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8289342.post-1152656228771690002006-07-12T03:47:00.000+05:302006-07-12T03:47:00.000+05:30It is a well known fact that parents often push th...It is a well known fact that parents often push their own ambitions and aspirations on children. <BR/><BR/>And this is a human nature and has happened from time immemorial and will continue to do so. <BR/><BR/>I am dead sure that each and every one who commented here will at one time or other wish that his/her kid became this or that. <BR/><BR/>Nothing to be ashamed of that, it is what makes us humans.<BR/>The only thing that can be done is to avoid putting undue pressure on the children. <BR/><BR/>But from my own experience, I must say that had my mother not been after me to do my homeworks and study for my exams I would have become an absolute zero. <BR/><BR/>There is a fine line to it and only experts can do a balancing act.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8289342.post-1152634489177438982006-07-11T21:44:00.000+05:302006-07-11T21:44:00.000+05:30Pradeep,I am not so sure about the west either.. b...Pradeep,<BR/>I am not so sure about the west either.. but at least there are documented cases of state intervention when parents cross the line..On the distaff side you have the horrifying child abuse stories from Belgium, Austria, US etc. But at least the manic belief in conventional careers and conventional modes of student assessment is much less there. And we have "Salaam Bombay"!! bittersweet, but incredible..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8289342.post-1152631883679879002006-07-11T21:01:00.000+05:302006-07-11T21:01:00.000+05:30Usha,Shocking indeed. I feel so bad for such child...<B>Usha</B>,<BR/>Shocking indeed. I feel so bad for such children for whom troubles in life start right at home.<BR/><BR/><B>Rony</B>,<BR/>Very true about the situation in Kerala. But I guess children are a bit better off in western countries like the US and the UK, and also in Australia, New Zealand etc.Pradeep Nairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04873369124947878452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8289342.post-1152618751570444822006-07-11T17:22:00.000+05:302006-07-11T17:22:00.000+05:30Wow!!! Several of the points you (and others make)...Wow!!! Several of the points you (and others make) are so pervedaing wherever you look.. especially in Gods own Country. What has often bemused me is the almost exclusive prevalence of these attitudes in the so called social upper crusts. You look at regions with most progressive growth indices (Kerala, Japan, Singapore et. al)and the incidences of parental harassment (of the mental kind)are horrifying. The ultimate paradox perhaps.<BR/>The post also brings to mind last years cover story from Outlook which pointed out that while the Kerala developmental model is looked up to by many; the state also has the highest suicide rate, 4 times the national alcohol consumption level and unemployment that would bemuse many swayed by the 100% literacy fable.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8289342.post-1152542685293915112006-07-10T20:14:00.000+05:302006-07-10T20:14:00.000+05:30I agree. I was appalled, disgusted and horrified w...I agree. I was appalled, disgusted and horrified when recently I heard froma friend that one of her friends had told his son, who had got some 8000+ rank in CET : " You could have died instead of putting me through this shame"!!!! Can you believe this? what punishment is adequate for this parent???Ushahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179239922869639391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8289342.post-1152178804726788532006-07-06T15:10:00.000+05:302006-07-06T15:10:00.000+05:30I agree with you. I am also surprised by your own ...I agree with you. I am also surprised by your own comment Mr.Nair, that the father of a child so young had made up his mind for the kid to be into animation. I think it is this kind of mentality that we need to get over with. <BR/><BR/>I see a parallel in this post and the "job satisfaction or money" posts. I think the same mentality is at work, in both these aspects.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8289342.post-1151988998580853182006-07-04T10:26:00.000+05:302006-07-04T10:26:00.000+05:30True Silverine. After I wrote that, I met a parent...True <B>Silverine</B>. After I wrote that, I met a parent, who wanted advice from me on how his son could become an animation artist. The child is in eighth std! I told the father that he should just let the kid draw at home... and not worry about him becoming a great artist. There is lots and lots of time, to get into the specifics of graphics and animation as a career option.Pradeep Nairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04873369124947878452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8289342.post-1151934419610698132006-07-03T19:16:00.000+05:302006-07-03T19:16:00.000+05:30From the moment a child is born he is nurtured for...From the moment a child is born he is nurtured for THE JOB. This is our mentality. And the goading starts early and is part of our psyche. Children are rarely allowed to enjoy childhood and look around..there is nothing to do in the evenings except study or watch TV. We don't have playgrounds nor parks. Till every sector becomes a viable earning alternative, the pressure to peform for that engineering/medical seat will continue from childhood.silverinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16474136215458639419noreply@blogger.com